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What You Think About …

What you think about gives you your experience

and your future.

 
Have you ever wondered how come some people seem to have all the time in the world, and others are always rushing? And did you notice that the ones who are always in a hurry are not necessarily the most effective or successful people?
 
What if it there were certain principles at play here, principles that those high performing yet calm people seem to have mastered, while others (most of us..) struggle to fit yet another commitment into our already full lives?
 
And if there were such principles, what would they be?
 
For certain it must have something to do with how these people think and what they choose to focus on.
 
There are 4 levels of thinking at play here, which each create very different experiences in life, work and business.
 
At the first level you have a great time AND gets lots done easily. This is where you do what feels good and you know it is good for you, for others and for the greater community / environment / world. The things you think, focus on and do at this level are the things that you do easily, that are familiar to you, that you are good at, that have meaning for you and that fulfill you. They can be very different things for different people. For me it is a variety of business and pleasure activities that I enjoy, and that are really easy and enjoyable for me to do. As easy as riding a bike…
 
The ultimate goal for all of us would be to spend as much as time as we possibly can at this level. This is where life is really great, juicy, exciting, rewarding, fulfilling, fun!
 
However…. Most things in life, in business, at work and also at home and at play, only become that easy AFTER you’ve learned how to do them, after you put the effort in, after you tried and often tried some more, after practice. And often some (literal or proverbial) sweat and maybe even some tears come into it to. In other words, they became easy (‘level 1’) because you gave it your best for quite a while at “level 2”, where you did the things that did not feel that good to do when you did them, but which you know where good for you, good for others and good for the greater good.
 
The best example is getting into an exercise regime… for most people that does NOT feel good at the start (and maybe even a while into it). It hurts to get those muscles working, it is hard work, and it takes effort and commitment and persistence. However, we also know that it is good for our own health now and that it will make us feel and look better over time. We know it is good for the people around us who benefit from a healthier and fitter us. And it is good for the community, as we will be able to contribute more- and possibly cost less in health care dollars over time, if we are fit.
 
In business and at work this means doing the things that are uncomfortable, unfamiliar, new, risky, and that you KNOW you need to do because they will give you the results you are after—those new customers, that happier and more effective team, that increase in sales, that finished project.
 
Level 2 means being willing to do the work, whatever that looks and feels like. It means making a decision to start it and stick to it, no matter what.
 
And has its amazing rewards. Because once you have learned the thing, made the shift, created the new system, or whatever it is that needed to be broken through in the discomfort of level 2, you move into level 1. Which is where things are easy, mainly because you experience a level of mastery, and that most certainly feels good!
 
Guess what, there is another level, level 3. Where we do things that do make us feel good, BUT they are NOT good for us, not good for others nor good for the greater good. They ‘feel’ good because they keep us comfortable and are inside of what we are familiar with.
And we also know deep down (or often not really that deep) that these very actions are harming or at least not supporting us. Like eating too much chocolate, like procrastinating about those phone calls. Like putting of that report that really needs to be finished, or that uncomfortable review with that non-performing team member.
 
This is were we take the easy road out, because we don’t want to confront the discomfort of doing something new, unfamiliar, risky, scary.
 
And we pay a price for that, as things at best stay the same. More likely though they get worse and we don’t expand, don’t grow, and don’t move forward.
 
Eventually if we spend too much time in level 3 thinking and associated activities, we became dabblers instead of masters… and end up in level 4 if we don’t change.
 
Level 4 is where things don’t feel good and we know that they are not good for anyone, including us. Ultimately that is were we give up on ourselves and our dreams - and life becomes really unpleasant and quite depressing.
 
Now, what has all this to do with being a top performer?
 
Well, the secret is, I think, that people who are really great at what they do and do it with ease, spend most of their time moving between levels 2 and 1, and none (or very little) in level 3. Level 4 does not even exist for them.
 
They choose to be comfortable with being uncomfortable, they take risks, they invest in finding out how to do things better, they cherish their own growth and development and keep putting deposits in their knowledge bank. They are not afraid to make mistakes – that is part and parcel of learning, growth, development and becoming masterful at anything. And they keep coming back for more, and more, and then some.
 
Successful people who get lots done in little time do this by keeping exposing themselves in level 2, till the things they are learning and trying on DO become easy – and move to a level 1 experience. Which is were we watch them and see them acting with such ease, balance and comfort.
 
One of the secrets of those people who seem to get so much done with so much ease may well be that they have paid the price of the discomfort of the unknown, the unfamiliar, the being-a-novice. They were willing to have things not ‘feel’ that good for a while, because they just know : that is what it takes to become a master.
 
If that is what you are interested in your life, in your business, in your career, now you know what to do: take on lots of level 2 experiences, throw yourself into them- and enjoy the ride! And eventually your level of mastery will rise – and you will be looked upon by others as one of those top performing people….. Imagine that!!
 
 
 
Marie-Josee/MJ Boesten from www.sourcefultransition.com.au
 
 
More about the author …
Marie-Josee’s work finds its basis not only in her professional training and 26 years of developing her expertise, she is also strongly influenced by her personal life experience of ongoing transformation & change. She has chosen a number of transitions herself like emigrating to a new continent, changing careers, building her own businesses, having a child at 39, leaving the big city to live in a small country town, to just mention a few.
It would be fair to say that MJ knows what it takes to assist individuals and organisations on their transitional journey, both from her personal life experience as well as decades of studying human development and working with people. 

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What To Do When It All Goes Pear Shaped

Have you ever had a setback? Have you ever been disappointed? Have you ever had a moment when the rug has been pulled out from under you?
 
How would you like to know the winning formula for turning setbacks into triumphs?
 
Being able to turn your most challenging times into your most victorious moments is a skill of the most successful. Being able to turn problems into possibilities and obstacles into opportunities is what separates the achievers from the story tellers. These are often your defining moments and what you do with them is critical.
 
I always say, “It’s not how you fall, it’s how you bounce that counts”
 
Here is my 3 step formula for overcoming setbacks …
 
Step 1 – What Really Happened
Often, when things don’t go the way you want them to, you can get wrapped up in the emotion of things. You can become upset and annoyed. Even frustrated. When your vision is clouded with such emotion, it’s difficult to see the path ahead of you.
 
There is a simple explanation for why this happens. When your emotions are high, your logic is low. When your emotions are low, your logic is high.
 
In February 2010, I held my first Get Inspired at High Tea event. It was extremely successful. The feedback was very positive. Everyone who attended had a great time and wanted to know when I was going to hold it again.
 
Now, the next time I planned to hold the event, just a few months later, it ended up being cancelled as we didn’t secure enough bookings. After my initial melt down which consisted of tears and chocolate, I went to work to figure out what really happened. Because coming from a place of emotion isn’t going to help me make it any better.
 
After doing this process that I’m going to share with you I realised was that it wasn’t really about me. They weren’t rejecting me. They weren’t saying I wasn’t good enough. They weren’t even thinking about me. They were simply saying this isn’t the right time or place for me.
 
Once the emotion was gone I was able to see clearly what was actually going on. The best part is that I received emails from some of our community members who are overseas and interstate, telling me how disappointed they were that they couldn’t be there. Definitely not a sign of failure! I would have missed all the positive feedback I had received if I had focused only on what went wrong.
 
So, let’s take some of the emotion out of it for you. Next time you are faced with a setback, here’s what I want you to do.
 
I want you to get a piece of paper and a pen and I want you to write down exactly what happened. All of it. Including the ugly stuff.
 
Then I want you to write it down again. This time with a little bit less emotion.
 
I want you to do this several times. Each time with less and less emotion. Keep going until you come to a place where you realise that you are writing down the facts without the emotion.
 
From this perspective you can look at the event or circumstance with clarity. It definitely takes the sting out of it. You can come to logical conclusions and have a better understanding of what happened.
 
 
Step 2 – Refocus On Your Goal / Outcome
Get back in touch with the goal or outcome that you’re trying to achieve. Polish up the vision. Give it a new coat of paint, or maybe a good dusting. Turn up the volume. Get in touch with how it will feel once you have achieved it. These are all really important things to be doing daily to keep your goal in the front of your mind.
 
 
Step 3 – Adjust Your Trajectory
Say to yourself, “Well, that didn’t work so what do I need to do differently?” Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. You need to adjust your course by changing something. Remember Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb. He conducted over 1800 experiments before he discovered the right formula. That’s over 1800 failures. Yet each time, he changed some small element of what he was doing until he came up with the perfect formula.
 
How can you apply this to your goals? What small thing can you change that will adjust your trajectory and make achieving your goal that much easier?
 
 
Now that you’ve looked at what really happened, refocused on your goal, adjusted your trajectory, the only thing left to do now is to do something. That’s right – take action. This is the part where most people stop. This is where the ‘rubber hits the road’ and they become the deer in the headlights. In order to turn this setback into a triumph, you must do something. Take a small step forward. Then follow that with another small step. And so on until you reach your goal.
 
See you on the sunny side.
 
Take care,
 
Jo
 

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How To Focus On One Thing At A Time

One of the biggest challenges my private clients, members of my programs and the Coaches that I mentor (not to mention myself at times) experience is focusing on one thing at a time. Through working with me, they’ve uncovered their passion. They’ve also structured their plan of action. They’re excited about bringing life to their dreams. And they want it all now!
 
It’s the NOW part that tends to pose a problem. We live in a society where practically anything can be handed to us immediately. From Big Macs to Flat Screen TV’s, we have become accustomed to having things on demand. 
 
The muscle that we have to work on here is the focus muscle. Understanding that there is a sequence of events that must happen in the proper order can be liberating as well as frustrating at times.
 
Your ability to focus on the task at hand means that you will significantly free up your time because you’ve dramatically improved your productivity. This will give you more time that you can spend enriching your most important relationships. When you become more productive you feel good about the work you’ve done at the end of the day. Most of all, you will achieve your goals much, much sooner. Most of us are guilty, at one point or another, of going after what we want in a very hit and miss fashion. We try and do too many things at once and end up doing very little.
 
Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.Barbara De Angelis
 
I know in my own experience how frustrating it can be to have a clear goal that I want to achieve immediately. It’s like I can almost taste it. Yet I can’t make it happen fast enough. I try desperately to make it happen as quickly as I can only to experience mediocre results. So I have to stop, take stock and start again in a more orderly fashion. I have to focus on the next step only and see it through until completion.
 
So how do we stay focused on one thing at a time?
 
Here are 3 steps that you can implement today to improve your focus and get better results:
 
Step One: Satisfy Your Body First
 
To hold your concentration you need the co-operation of your body. When your body is in a peak physical state , it’ll be fuelled and ready to sustain you. What tends to happen to most of us is we are constantly getting up and moving around, being distracted and not accomplishing very much. You end up being busy but not productive.
 
If I’m hungry, restless, feel fidgety or need some fresh air it’s highly unlikely that I’ll be able to focus. I’ll be distracted by all these things my body is telling me that need to be taken care of. My focus goes to my body, not the task at hand.
 
It’s worth checking in with your body before starting your task to find out if its hungry, thirsty, needs a shower, a stretch or simply a walk. The trick here is not to let that become a part of you procrastinating. Give yourself a couple of minutes to get this done.
 
Step Two: Turn Off The Distractions
The mind can be easily distracted by what it sees or hears around it.  By turning off the distractions, you will remain focused, get more done and the quality of the work you produce will be significantly better. When there are distractions around you it often takes 2, 3 or even 4 times as long to do a simple task.
 
If I am doing any writing or creating, such as a new program or working on my book, it’s essential that I turn off the distractions. Although in some of the previous jobs I’ve had, I was quite used to working in very noisy environments, focusing on the task I want to complete without distractions means that what I produce is of a far better quality.
 
Turn off phones, TV and the likes which might easily cause a distraction for you.  Simply take a look at the space around you and scan for any likely distractions. You’ll know what they are.
 
 
Step Three: 90 Minute Chunks
 
Our concentration span, generally speaking, only lasts for around 90 minutes. This is quite a manageable amount of time and it’s amazing what you can actually achieve when you break your task down to 90 minute chunks. Once you have set yourself a deadline you can also create a reward for yourself. You have a nice goal to work towards. (Perhaps that nice cup of tea and a chocky biscuit! That often works for me)
 
I’ve seen many people sit at their desk from 9am and plough through their day, not stopping to take any breaks, and be completely exhausted and drained by the end of the day. When you don’t schedule in your time into 90 minute chunks, chances are that you’ll be very busy yet not very productive.
 
Those who make the worse use of their time are the first to complain of its shortness.Jean De La Bruyere
 
Give yourself a 90 minute time limit. Solidly sit and work for that 90 minutes. No distractions. Then afterwards, reward yourself with a treat such as a stretch, cup of tea or coffee with a nice biscuit. Perhaps a quick walk around to loosen up the muscles. Make this no more than 5 – 10 minutes. Then it’s back to work for your next 90 minutes.
 
Take Action Challenge: Grow your concentration muscle
 
A five minute daily meditation can sharpen your concentration powers.  Meditation can be as simple as being still and repeating a word or mantra in your thoughts such as, “I am calm, clear and focused” or “Peace”.   
 
Start with one minute ( if you have too) and gradually increase over time. It helps if you keep your eyes soft or closed and breathing relaxed.
 
The purpose of your daily five minute meditation ritual is to let your mind know you are in charge and its not. Nor are the distractions!

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Your Personal Power

Have you ever noticed that sometimes we do more to help someone else overcome the most difficult of obstacles than we do for ourselves? In my work, I’ve found that most people will care for themselves to a point yet will go above and beyond for others often at their own expense.

This is because when you walk into the unknown you are really walking into your fear. Fear is simply an acronym for False Expectations Appearing Real. It’s a future perception that there will be more pain than pleasure, more bad than good, more sad than happy.

In this universe, everything is in balance. There is never more pain than please, bad than good, sad than happy. It’s just our perception. We often become paralyzed by fear when we think about doing something in the future that we aren’t sure of. Our doubts creep into our conscious thought and we start to imagine the worst case scenario’s.

When we break it down, fear is just a perception that if we go to that ‘place’ we won’t be able to handle it. We won’t be able to handle whatever we are confronted with. We won’t have the tools or skills necessary. We won’t be fully equipped to deal with the possibilities that may arise.

The way that you manage fear is actually quite easy. The first thing you need to do is get specific with what the fear is really all about. What are you really afraid of? Chunk it down until you can come up with something that you feel emotional about. Then, write a list of all the benefits of actually doing the thing you are afraid of. Keep writing the benefits until the fear no longer exists. Then, when you have balanced out your lopsided perceptions you won’t feel afraid anymore. You’ll be able to make a clear decision on the right course of action without the emotions getting in the way. You will have more clarity and certainty about the right path.

When we balance out any lopsided emotions, we really step into our own Personal Power. We are able to make better decisions and the path to carrying out our goals becomes clearer. Doesn’t that sound like something better to focus on?

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What You Focus On Is What You Get

What do you need to focus on today to ensure that you have an outstanding tomorrow?

Where you are today has been determined by the decisions you made yesterday and the day before and so on. Your today has happened because of the ‘Power’ you gave it yesterday. Your ‘Power’ is the culmination of your thoughts, feelings, emotions and what you tell yourself.

So what needs to change today to make tomorrow the most outstanding day? What things do you need to bring into your world today to create the tomorrow that you desire?

Are you going to wake up tomorrow morning and say to yourself,

“I have so much to do today. I have to do this and this and this and by the time I’ve done all of these things, I’ll have no time for the things I truly want to do. There are so many demands on me right now. Life sucks.”

What if you were to wake up tomorrow morning and say to yourself,

“Today, I have a fair amount of things to do, but, if I concentrate on getting the ‘have to do’s’ done first, then I will be free to do the things I want to do later.”

How much different would it feel if you were to change the way you talk to yourself? For example:

“It’s too hard. I can’t do it.”

Change it to:

“It’s a challenge, but I’ll give it a go.”

What we focus on is what we will find evidence of, to the exclusion of everything else. We can only experience what we search for. So, why not search for the positives in your life. Give the positives all the power you can and take the momentum away from the negative. You might be surprised by the result.

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Surround Yourself With Empowering People

Nothing will sabotage your efforts to live a healthy, balanced, fulfilled life more conclusively than surrounding yourself with people who don’t support your desire to live in this manner. The most difficult course you’ll chart as you make life improvements will be that of nurturing and evolving relationships with those who sustain you and identifying and terminating relationships with those who aren’t willing to support your growth.

Your relationships have the capacity to lift you up. They also have the capacity to keep you stuck and tear you down. Surrounding yourself with people who support your growth is an incredibly powerful way to create a lifestyle that pulls you toward your highest potential. Surrounding yourself with people who don’t will almost certainly undermine the very change that you’re attempting to make.

Your commitment to surrounding yourself with supportive people and clearly asking for the kind of support you need sets you up for success. Your willingness to develop relationships with people who share your values and interests increases your chances of success still further.  Your resolve to end relationships with people who won’t support or who undermine your attempts at change ensures your success, increases your satisfaction and validates your deservingness.

Take a moment to consider the key people in your life. Are they supportive of the new things you’re learning? Will they encourage you in your desire to change your behavior? Better still, will they partner with you? Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Adopt the strategy of surrounding yourself with empowering people and you will step more fully into your power.

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Letting Go

Living an exceptional life is something that we’re all are striving for. A life filled with the things that are important to us. A life filled with feelings of confidence, success and a general sense of self-assuredness. For me, exceptional living means living life in the present, learning from the past with a view to the future.

For some people, the past is like a ball and chain. It follows them wherever they go, stopping them from achieving goals in their life. It is restricting, heavy and extremely burdensome. Most people never break free from the shackles of their past and are therefore living a life of regret.

“How we spend our days is of course, how we spend our lives” - Annie Dillard

Letting go of your past and living in the moment is one of the steps that will take you towards exceptional living. I say this because the only thing that you can have an effect on is this moment and how you use it. This hour, this minute, this second.

Ask yourself this question:  How can I create the life that I truly want whilst I spend my time living in the past? 

Realize that it cannot be changed

The most sobering thing about the past is that it cannot be changed. Things have already happened. And seeing as there is no way to travel back in time, there is no way to change the past. At this point you must learn to accept it.

How would you go if you were driving your car and the only thing you looked at was the rear vision mirror? You didn’t look out the front of the car, or to the sides. You simply fixed your sight firmly on what’s happening behind you. You can liken that to what happens when we live in the past. We go through life looking backwards. Our vision becomes tunnel like and the only things that we can see is what happened back there.

If you live in the past and are having trouble letting go you need to realize that it cannot be changed. You can never go back to those times and you will never erase what happened. By living in this past moment you are preventing yourself from actually fixing what you did wrong.

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Facing Your Fears

Sometimes, the biggest thing that stops us from moving forward is the fear. That’s something that I’ve gone through over the last couple of months.

Yes, it’s true, fear kept me stuck in the end of 2008. Even with the amount of work that I’ve done on myself and the things that I know, I was still struck down by fear. I knew that things needed to change and yet I was so afraid of the change. I kept trying to move forward with what I thought was needed yet kept hitting brick walls again and again.

I’m sharing it with you to show you that no matter who you are and what stage of self growth you’re in, you can still be struck down by fear.

The question is, what do we do about it?

The first thing that I did was acknowledged the fact that I was feeling the effects of fear. You can’t work with what you don’t know. If you can’t identify what you’re going through, it makes it extremely difficult to formulate a plan to overcome it.

Once I had acknowledge that I was feeling fear, I took just 15 minutes out of my day to become really clear on what was going on. You see, fear is just a mask for what’s really going on inside of us.

I took a piece of paper and wrote down a list of exactly what it was that I was afraid of. I kept writing until I had gotten to the point where the tears just flowed about and it was at that point that I had something to work with.

If you’re feeling the effects of fear and it’s stopping you from moving forward, why not try this technique. It only takes around 15 minutes yet gives you such clarity about what’s really going on in your world.

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Don’t Fear the Fear

Of course you’ve heard that there are thousands of ways to rid fear from your life. Programs, potions, pills, Get Rid of Fear quick schemes, books. A whole industry has been born out of our need to control our fears. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could completely rid our lives of fear altogether?
Or would it…

Little by little as you begin to absorb this month’s newsletter, you’ll become aware that fear is actually quite useful. Fear is a really essential part of our journey. It allows us to know certain things like:

When there is the possibility of danger approaching us

  • When we’re afraid of getting chastised for doing something we know we shouldn’t have(like eating those chocolate biscuits we shouldn’t)
  • When we’ve stepped out on a ledge and are out of our comfort zone

There have been many times in your life that fear has proven to be your savior. It’s funny to even entertain the idea that fear is there for the purposes of keeping you safe.

I have recently experienced some pretty debilitating fears myself. These fears had so much control over my thoughts and feelings I found myself in an interesting situation. A situation that left me questioning my purpose. I kept saying to myself, “It shouldn’t be this hard.”

But when I realized what the fear was actually around, I then had a choice. I got to choose how I am going to manage this state. Was it all in my head or was the fear / danger real?

Lucky for me, the fear was all in my head. I didn’t have a stranger beating at my front door. I didn’t have a life threatening incident. Thank the heavens for that.

My fear was all around, what if no-one wants to listen to what I have to say. Now, throughout my life, especially in my childhood, I was very shy and introverted. I remember many times wanting to blend into the background so that no-one could see me. The thought of someone noticing me used to send me into a complete panic and run desperately in search of my mother’s skirt.

I spent the better part of my life keeping my thoughts to myself because I didn’t think that anyone would be interested in what I had to say. Now, it’s a little different - I’m glad to say.

I’ve found my voice and I have something important to say. In this moment of fear, I had to stop and ask myself a better question and those of you who have experienced a session with me will know that this is a big part of what we do. The question I asked myself was this:

Is this fear the fear of a woman about to turn 40 or is it the fear of a small child?

The answer:

It was the fear of me as a small child. The fear that I was running was the fear that I have carried around with me, unconsciously, since I was very little. And here I am, about to turn 40, and I’m still running that very same pattern. So what did I do. I asked myself this question:

What will it mean if no-one listens?

Will it mean that my point is not valid? - No.
Will it mean that I’m not good enough? - No.
Will it mean that no-one will ever listen to me again? - NO!

What it does mean, however, is that I had better go back and learn how to do some better marketing. I had better go and get some help. I had better start looking for different solutions. From this perspective, I could make a change to my current experiences.

So, in this sense, fear has been very useful. It came just in the nick of time. If it wasn’t for that fear, I wouldn’t have taken the necessary steps to make sure that this event is a complete success. I can honestly tell you that I have left no stone unturned in the lead up to this evening seminar. Now I feel that whatever happens on the night is meant to happen and I can pick up and go from there. I will learn from this experience and make the next one even better.

Posted by admin on July 20th, 2010.
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What Do You Believe?

Recently, I was watching ‘So You Think You Can Dance’, and I was amazed. Not because of the quality of the performers, which was exceptional. I was amazed at how influential their mindset was over their performance. For some of the dancers, they were dancing in a genre (style) that they weren’t familiar with. Some of them appeared less confident than when I had seen them dance in their preferred style.

What does all this mean?
 
It means that what you believe when you step out of your comfort zone makes the difference between mild success and mind blowing success.
 
If you have a growth mindset when you step out of your comfort zone, you will drastically improve your chances of reaching your goals. You will also experience a greater sense of confidence in your ability. This means that you will no longer be afraid to try new experiences.
 
Most of us would prefer to stay ’safe and comfortable’. Never really experiencing all that life has to give. I get that. Life can be difficult even when we’re in our comfort zone.
 
It was Henry Ford who said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” What he was saying here is that our thoughts, what we believe to be true, determines our outcome or end result. So, if we believe that we can do something, we’ll have a higher chance of actually achieving it.
 
A belief is simply an idea or a thought that WE make right or wrong. It doesn’t need any supporting evidence to be true. That means that we are actually free to believe whatever we want. Pretty amazing, don’t you think?
 
How do we work out whether our thoughts are making our world shrink or expand?
 
The first thing you must do is become a Belief Hunter. By doing this, you will become aware of what your beliefs are, which means that you have the power to keep them the same if they are serving you or you can change them if they’re not.
 
When you become a Belief Hunter, you listen, watch and sense for unconscious beliefs in yourself and in others that are supporting your current lifestyle. You literally hear between the lines of what they say.
 
If someone shares, “It always does that”, they are deleting all the evidence that might challenge this belief. Their belief about always is the key to listen for. Their belief is that it can never e different.
 
If someone shares, “That never works out”, what belief are you hearing?
 
Once you feel confident that your skill as a Belief Hunter is really kicking in, take your observation skills to the next level and explore other people’s beliefs. Ask yourself, “How is this serving them/me?” How did you/I come to that belief?”
 
Just learn about how people construct beliefs and what they tell themselves so they can hold onto a belief.
 
When you explore your world remember to come from a place of compassionate curiosity. It’s important to keep any judgement out of the way. There isn’t any right or wrong answer, remember. Simply wonder, how did I come to believe that?
 
Now, go out there an become a Belief Hunter!
 
Good luck. 

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